If you want to be more successful, you need to learn how to stop complaining. Discover how your daily journal entries can help you accomplish that.
Don’t ask what the trigger was, but around the end of 2017, a person very dear to me started nagging all the time.
It got to the point every time her name showed on my caller ID, I got tense.
I wanted to be supportive, but I didn’t want to listen to an hour-long conversation about everything wrong in the world.
As I started avoiding my friend more, I began to realize I was exhibiting some of those same whiny, unappreciative traits.
Aggressive drivers “made me” nag. The annoying rainy weather was always brought up in conversations. Noisy neighbors got me grumble.
I had to do something about it!
While it sounds like an overwhelming mission, little by little, we all can cut down complaints.
And the tool I’ve been using for that isn’t anything else than my journal.
This was my realization
As I noticed my friend complain more and more, I realized I had become a complainer too!
As it started to bother me, I realized that more and more people were on the same path too.
Complaining doesn’t make you a “bad” person, however, it’s a major waste of energy.
And, it doesn’t accomplish anything either.
Keep in mind that it is excellent to:
- talk to people
- ask for help
- share our struggles with the intention of brainstorming for a solution
Nagging for the sake of nagging, on the other hand, doesn’t change a thing!
We end up focusing more on the issues themselves instead of trying to find an answer. It happens out of the need of sympathy of others or simply habit.
I had become this kind of person.
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One day you wake up in the morning, and you realize that most of your conversations have been complaints.
Whether or not you initiated them, you fall into the trap comparing how miserable your and your acquaintances’ lives are.
It isn’t a pleasant discovery, but there’s absolutely no reason to feel guilty about it.
Someone else’s behavior
For whatever the reason, it rings you the bell that a friend of yours does nothing but nag.
The subjects may vary:
- the weather
- the world around them
Their conversations go around things they can’t control, yet, they complain anyway.
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Someone calls you a “complainer”
This is probably the most confronting one of all.
No one likes to hear anything negative about themselves.
Mainly when you feel all you were doing was sharing.
But your perception of sharing isn’t necessarily the same of those around you.
If that’s your case, be thankful for someone showing you the light at the end of the tunnel.
Now it’s time for action!
Whatever your situation, know that you can always choose to keep on doing what you’ve been doing or make a change. Needless to say, I recommend the latter.
After all, complaining is nothing bad a habit.
It’s a habit that sucks up your energy.
It also shifts your focus away from being proactive and looking for solutions to a passive approach to your life.
First of all, don’t let guilt stop you from taking action.
Grab your journal and start your daily review:
- What things did you complain about throughout the day?
- What happened? Be as detailed as possible.
- Why did it bother you so much?
- Could you have solved or mitigated it?
- Let’s be honest, did complaining help you anyway?
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Before you go
Can you answer the following question in the comments below, please?
Do you find yourself complaining on a regular basis?