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How To Remove ‘But’ From Your Vocabulary & Make Your Dream A Reality

How To Remove ‘But’ From Your Vocabulary & Make Your Dream A Reality

What is the burning passion deep inside your heart that you want to achieve in your life?

A guest post by Sue Loncaric.

Okay, the Festive Season is over for another year, and we are well into the first month of a New year. What do you REALLY WANT for YOU?  Forget the usual answers of losing weight, get fit, exercise more.  What is the burning passion deep inside your heart that you want to achieve in your life?

I know as you read this the little voice in your head is saying ‘Yes, I really want to BUT’…

Well, let’s eliminate BUT from our vocabulary and replace it with HOW & WHEN!

We are only held back by our own fears. via @Sizzling60 #passion #quoteoftheday Share on X

We all have fears and anyone who says they don’t is perhaps not being truthful or they may have learnt how to control their fears, overcome them and FLY! YOU CAN TOO!

So the question is: “How can you fly this year and make your dreams a reality?

Here are 5 steps to Realising your Dreams and Goals

1. Acknowledge your Commitment

Do you really want it?

If you passionately want something you will overcome any obstacle including your fears to achieve your goal – no matter how long it takes.

Remember a dream is only a dream, YOU are the one that can make it a REALITY.

2. Acknowledge your Fears

Fear is real, and we all experience it on different levels and in different ways.

Once you face your fear head on and acknowledge its existence, you can work to overcoming this feeling, and it will become easier. 

Breakdown your fears and define what you are afraid of.

Do you fear:

  • failing and not achieving your goal?
  • going against what others expect of you?
  • feeling selfish for following your dream and working towards its reality?
  • your abilities? ‘I’m too old’ or ‘I don’t know how.’
  • change?  Fear of change is one of the biggest fears we face because change can be confronting.

Once you acknowledge and define what it is you are afraid of then, you can work towards conquering that fear.

How To Remove ‘But’ From Your Vocabulary & Make Your Dream A Reality.

3. Make a Plan

The saying ‘Failing to plan is planning to fail’ is so true, especially if you are working towards making a dream a reality.

Failing to plan is planning to fail. - Alan Lakein #quote #planning #success Share on X

Think about your plan and write it down.

Use the S.M.A.R.T. Principle (*1) to help give your plan direction:

S – your goals must be specific: Write down what you specifically want to achieve not a broad idea.

M – your goals must be measurable: You must be able to determine your progress.

A – your goals must be attainable: You must be able to reach an end point

R – your goals must be realistic: It is pointless having dreams or goals that cannot be achieved. For example, I may want to fly to the moon, but that realistically won’t happen

T – your goals must be related to a time frame: You need to determine a plan with milestones along the way that you can work towards to achieve your ultimate goal.

4. Create a Mantra

“I will achieve my dreams and goals. There is NO BUT.”

Write it down and pin a copy to your mirror so that you are reminded every day of what you are working towards.

Use the mantra as a screen saver on your computer. Say it each morning ‘out loud’ and with passion.

If you feel your fears taking over remember, your mantra and repeat it several times out loud to reinforce it in your mind.

Repeat your #mantra out loud to reinforce it in your mind. via @Sizzling60 #success Share on X

5. Relax & Cut yourself some Slack

Take time to relax and nurture yourself as you work towards your goal.

Remember you are responsible for how you feel.

If you feel fear or demotivated take a moment to pause. Breathe deeply inhaling and exhaling slowly 3 times.  Acknowledge what you are feeling, relax, repeat your mantra and then continue your journey towards making your dream a reality.

Make your #dream a reality with these 5 steps. via @Sizzling60 #success Share on X


Sometimes, you will struggle along your journey, and you may lose your motivation or become impatient. When these times happen, don’t beat yourself up. They will happen the important thing is to acknowledge these times and then get back on track without beating yourself up.

If you have made your plan, you have already eliminated the ‘BUT’ and worked out the ‘HOW AND WHEN’,  Congratulations! You have taken the first step.

The next step is to find the BELIEF in yourself that you CAN do it and build on that confidence.

Find the #BELIEF in yourself that you CAN do it and build on that #confidence. via @Sizzling60 Share on X

All that is left is to follow your plan and FLY!


* 1. Doran, G. T. (1981). “There’s an S.M.A.R.T. way to write management’s goals and objectives”. Management Review (AMA FORUM) 70 (11): 35–36.

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About The Author

Sue Loncaric

Since taking early retirement, Sue found she needed more in her life and Sizzling Towards Sixty was born. She shares her journey through midlife to encourage others to join with her in her quest to live a fit, active and fun life. Sue loves connecting with people and helping them realise their full potential to be the best they can be!

Hello, my name is Debbie Rodrigues.

By day, I am a powerhouse Senior Executive Assistant; by night, I am a planning enthusiast. When I'm not cycling, you'll probably find me journaling in my free time.

On my website, you'll find tips to elevate your skill set, build confidence, improve productivity, and achieve success in the things that truly matter to you.